Having lived away for many years, it’s been a long time since I’ve observed the Thanksgiving tradition. Last night we were invited to a friend’s house to share a meal with them. It was a traditional turkey supper; with stuffing, roasted vegetables, potatoes, cranberry sauce and pakoras and samosas for the vegetarian (me). One of the guests decided to give thanks, and it wasn’t until that moment that the relevance of his words and the occasion came home to me. Simple words of truth from an immigrant, a Kenyan Ismaili who had long ago adopted a North American home.
It doesn’t matter what you believe or what your faith or lack thereof is - there is usually something to be thankful for. I am thankful for my children, including the way they drive me round the bend, frequently.
(Number one in a series, click here for more. © S. Marian, my children and their good friend at Loch Coruisk, Isle of Skye.)
(Number two in series, click here to view all.)
…Whether you take a stroll with a friend today or just sit with a cup of tea or coffee - breathe, breathe in this moment and savour it, it’s all you’ve got with any certainty. The past is gone and the future is unknown but you have this, it’s yours.
(© S. Marian, photo taken at Eilean Donan Castle, Loch Duich.)
The road back. It was intensely tempting to extend my stay on Skye. It came to me driving alongside this disused road, the road I learned to drive on, that it was time to go. Of course it was a painful decision but then there was relief too, like light breaking through clouds. There is a time and place for everything and wisdom in recognising this. On Wednesday I travel back after what has been an epic adventure. Thank you to all who were part of it, and in these last days, a heartfelt thanks to J, J and N - I’m having a wonderful time.
© S. Marian. The old Sleat road and The Sound of Sleat from Ostaig, Southern Skye.
Helping my son and his good friend organise their Scottish adventure, it’s obvious that this is true. Whether it be British Rail, rain (and they are remarkably similar) or making connections that won’t connect - they don’t care, they’re just happy to be doing it together.
This says “Be Omid e Khoda” meaning “With the hope of god’s attention” or “God willing”. Us Persian’s we say this before we start doing anything or when we are getting depressed or stressed or feeling going nowhere. There is always him being more powerful and able than anybody or anything else. Having trust on him and hope will bring his power to us and solves the problems. I am not too religious but I do believe in him and his eternal power and that is how I personally survive a lot with smile on my face.
Thank you Jenny for your beautiful and kind thoughts that initiated this moving message, thank you Hosein for your lovely work and for you too, Be Omid e Khoda - and for my Father who died at 4:00pm this afternoon.
I lay awake for a while last night thinking about the day, the piece I posted and as I often do, considering my position from different angles. I feel I may have been a little too polarised in my viewpoint, or if not polarised than omitting some important considerations. I said, "As I’ve discovered, the women not prone to this behaviour (catty and back stabbing) are the chronically insecure, that feel they have nothing to bring to the battle or the deeply secure, and they are a relative rarity."
I would like to add that I believe the insecurity that drives this negative female behaviour is very common, and the behaviour itself is familiar enough that if you ask a woman, she will be able to say she’s seen it, probably often. I think there are women who are insecure, or even those that have nothing ‘to bring to battle,’ that overcome. They simply choose not to behave this way. It is possible to have good female friends, I have and many I know have also.
Now my comment about men, "This isn’t to suggest that men can’t or don’t play an important part in children’s lives because they can and do. Their hunting has been adapted to wage earning and protection to support." Men also can and do more than just earning a wage and supporting their wives/partners and children. I know many men who are excellent fathers and husbands, involved in their children’s lives and interests and taking an active role in running the home.
I hope this brings balance to my piece. What are your thoughts about women and how they treat other women?
Click on the source link for the complete piece.
"A damning indictment of women maybe, but the truth is exposed. Our sensitivity, empathy, gentleness and other fine qualities when mixed with insecurity become a poison for friendship."
© S. Marian, Sept.11, 2012
An excerpt from “The Female Exposed,” to be found on “A View From Outside the Box,” url: adialoge. Please follow the source link if you’ve ever wondered about the difference between women’s image and the reality and what lies beneath.
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