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I’m not a feminist…not really an anything ‘ist.’ I broadly identify with this statement though and the same applies men. If a man is sensitive or expressive, it doesn’t make him feminine or ‘metrosexual.’ It’s not about what is, nor about changing the way the world views something, it’s about taking responsibility for our own views, and maybe, changing them.
Before I rush off to style my hair and reapply my lipstick, and mix a cocktail and lay out slippers for the homecoming of hubby, I thought I’d share this with you…
"Men insult their friends but don’t mean it, women compliment their friends and don’t mean it……."
~ John S.
In response to the post, “The Dressed Word,” click on source link to read the piece. Thanks John, I wish there was less truth in your statement.
"To further this aim, there is a book to encourage deeper understanding in communication, "Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus." Accepting that I am describing stereotypical behaviour, you would think that those of reading age after its publication in 1992 would have benefitted from this seminal work. Yet, listening to young men and women expressing their communication problems, I’m sure that nothing has changed. Women are still having to either spell it all out in tedious fashion, or cloaking their meaning in many layers, hoping for x-ray vision or a good undressing. Men are functioning on a different plane altogether, and that which is not referred to does not exist."
© S. Marian, Sept. 25, 2012
An excerpt from “The Dressed Word,” the complete piece to be found on “A View From Outside the Box,” url: adialogue.
Image source: drawception.com/viewgame/NFAmKKsHFH/men-are-from-mars-women-are-from-venus/
"…the essence of (scent) attraction is genetic, specifically immunity. We’re able to distinguish the immune strength and diversity of those we’re interested in by their scent. We aren’t attracted to people like us in this regard, but are seeking genetic variety. Women are hugely better at detecting differences in scent than men."
© S. Marian, Sept.18, 2012
An excerpt from “Olfactory Connections,” to be found on “A View From Outside the Box,” url: adialogue. Find out what role scent plays in attraction and our choice of a mate - you might be surprised. Click on the source link for full piece.
An image from the movie “Mean Girls,” with Lindsay Lohan. In reference to yesterday’s post and today’s posted addendum, it’s apparent that this is a widespread issue. My teenage daughter has watched this movie in school at least three times in the last two years. Whenever a teacher has no lesson planned, such as before Christmas, this is often what they play for them.
I found this photo on a blog and I’d like to quote from the piece that went with the image. Click on the source link to read yesterday’s post, “The Female Exposed.”
"Yes, I went there. Women are constantly complaining about how badly men treat them (I’m a woman, I should know – and I do, not the point) but I almost never hear females complain about how badly women treat other women.
Ask a woman what she will call another woman who sleeps around with multiple partners and I guarantee you a derogatory word will follow. But ask a man what he’d call another man who sleeps around with multiple partners and something along the lines of champion will follow. Of course, this is not ALWAYS the case but most of the time it is (trust me; I have survey results from a research paper to prove it).
My point is not that women should start encouraging each other to sleep around but rather that they should start encouraging each other FULL STOP. We can learn a lot from the way men stick by each other.
“Girl World” can be a cold and harsh place. Unfortunately a lot of the time women allow jealousy, insecurities and petty little things to get in the way of their ability to treat each other with love and respect…”
For the rest of this piece, follow the link: http://chantelleova.wordpress.com/tag/women-should-stick-together/
I lay awake for a while last night thinking about the day, the piece I posted and as I often do, considering my position from different angles. I feel I may have been a little too polarised in my viewpoint, or if not polarised than omitting some important considerations. I said, "As I’ve discovered, the women not prone to this behaviour (catty and back stabbing) are the chronically insecure, that feel they have nothing to bring to the battle or the deeply secure, and they are a relative rarity."
I would like to add that I believe the insecurity that drives this negative female behaviour is very common, and the behaviour itself is familiar enough that if you ask a woman, she will be able to say she’s seen it, probably often. I think there are women who are insecure, or even those that have nothing ‘to bring to battle,’ that overcome. They simply choose not to behave this way. It is possible to have good female friends, I have and many I know have also.
Now my comment about men, "This isn’t to suggest that men can’t or don’t play an important part in children’s lives because they can and do. Their hunting has been adapted to wage earning and protection to support." Men also can and do more than just earning a wage and supporting their wives/partners and children. I know many men who are excellent fathers and husbands, involved in their children’s lives and interests and taking an active role in running the home.
I hope this brings balance to my piece. What are your thoughts about women and how they treat other women?
Click on the source link for the complete piece.
"Womanliness: Behavioural traits may include gentleness, nurturance, empathy, sensitivity and tolerance. This is the accepted stereotype. It’s not a stretch to imagine that these qualities should make women…good friends….I think this bears some scrutiny."
© S. Marian, Sept.11, 2012
An excerpt from “The Female Exposed,” to be found on “A View From Outside the Box,” url: adialogue. Read and find out why there is such a gulf between women’s image and the reality and what lies underneath their behaviour in friendship. Click on source link for full piece.
(Video titled, “Women in Art.”)